Boundaries

Happy Magickal, Mesmerising, Marvelous, Musical, Majestical, Manifesting Monday!

How are you gorgeous one?  

Here in Canada it is Thanksgiving and there wasn’t meant to be a reading this week – but Spirit had a different idea!!!!  So along with the most massive pumpkin pie ever – we have a reading!

So let me ask you a question, okay?

Do you give yourself permission to have healthy boundaries, to speak your truth with compassion and to nurture yourself? If not – why not?

I ask this (with Thanksgiving in mind), as this last week I have had multiple conversations with amazing people who allow their boundaries to be ignored by family, friends, colleagues and then reap the sense of overwhelm, regret and feeling dismissed.  

So as the week unfolded (with Thanksgiving weekend rapidly approaching), a niggling started, and then got bigger and bigger.  Then it finally erupted mid week with “I don’t want to have to cook Thanksgiving dinner!”  Which shocked the shit out of me as I love celebrating most everything and I love the people that I spend time with.

However, we had a birthday gathering two weekends ago which was fabulous.  We had a gathering in August as my brother was here.  We had a gathering in July to celebrate someone, and then the Solstice gathering in June.  All amazing, all wonderful, all I loved and all a lot of work!  One day is filled with errands, grabbing ingredients and cleaning.  The next day is filled with cooking, hosting and organising and then the day after is clean up.  Poof, 3 days gone!

So as this burbling of “I don’t want to host Thanksgiving” kept growing and growing so did my anxiety about how it would be received, and the guilt of letting people down and all the other bullshit stories that can swirl in our heads (aren’t they lovely?).  

And then I remembered the phrase that has been walking with me for a while “Tenderly Fierce”.  

That place of staying open and vulnerable with a tender heart whilst allowing compassion for all things and people, including self, while fiercely protecting our boundaries.  

Yes! Yes!  Yes!

Thus, I shared with the kids, family, friends –”I love you but I really just want to do my own thing this weekend.  I need some space and don’t want to be on deck for anyone else.  I want to play, paint, hike, read, relax, write and watch the leaves dance with no agenda, no schedule and not committing to anyone other than myself.”

It was so amazing to see the response!  Most of them got it, and really appreciated the fact that I had shared my boundary with them!  (The mothership certainly didn’t, but that’s not a surprise).  

So I revelled in the time!  I went out and watched the sun rise and light up all the gorgeous leaf colours. I yomped with Danu, exploring new places whilst revelling in the glory that surrounded me.  I’ve painted, written, gardened, made an amazing crystal necklace and a delicious Thanksgiving feast for one of all the foods that I wanted to eat (and no it didn’t include Turkey).  

I’ve danced, lit candles, put on good music and just spent time BEing, Playing and Refuelling. 

And you know what?  It made me even more Thankful this Thanksgiving.  It made me Thankful that I have released the trauma response of not being allowed boundaries from my family of origin.  It made me Thankful for my kids and friends who totally appreciate it and get it.  It made me Thankful that using my voice and practicing being Tenderly Fierce are part of who I am.  It made me Thankful that I had time to play.  It made me exceptionally Thankful for where I live and the gorgeous places to explore and play in.  

So you may be thinking to yourself – ummmm, Jenn why the heck are you talking about boundaries?  

So gorgeous one, I hope you take time to really look at your boundaries (they aren’t walls btw).  Healthy boundaries are a crucial component of self-care. That’s because in work or in our personal relationships, poor boundaries lead to resentment, anger, and burnout.  

And I want you to find your voice, whether it is with speaking about your boundaries, your truth, your thanks and gratitude or your pain.  Okay?

Now enough chuntering from me, let’s crack on with the reading.   When I went to the cards to ask who would like to be present this week it made my heart smile to see who showed up.  The amazing Faery Blessing guides were most adamant.  As after all, who doesn’t need a Blessing?

Now if these guides are new to you, please let me introduce them as it would be rude not to.

Faeries are present in every droplet of water, every blade of grass – they are everywhere there is a trace of nature – thus every field, flower, and forest is theirs.  They inhabit the wild rainforests and the old castles; they dance within standing stones and burial mounds; they are on the top of mountains and within the grove deep in the valley; and they appear in the cracks in the pavement and beneath the cities in the old, tangled tree roots.  Faeries are part of this world, and they were here before we were born into this world, and they know us better than we know ourselves.  

For humans, many of us have lost our sense of play, our sense of relationship with nature, our courage to be ourselves – as well as our hope, creativity, and personal power.  We have looked outside of ourselves and nature and the sacred ones for answers, and in doing so, we have become quite lost.  The blessings of the faeries can bring us back into relationship with ourselves, back into relationship with the elements and the elementals, so that we can become more at home within the world, while creating a personal world which supports our dreams, our wishes, and our purpose.  

Yes!  Positively perfect!

So gorgeous one take a breath.  Just a normal breath and then as you carry on breathing allow it to slow down.  Breathing in through your nose and out through your mouth.  Allow in your mind’s eye a rising of your gorgeous heart,  your voice and a beautiful circle of silver light around them.  Allow this silver light to grow stronger, with you in the center and let that space be filled with all the things you are thankful for.   Let the silver circle become a delicious healthy boundary.   As you breathe just let it swirl, you don’t have to control it.  

Then with this energy pick the card or cards that call to you.  What Blessing is for you this week?

Did you remember to pick?

Shall we go look?

A BLESSING ON THE HEART’S CALLING

The Faery Gift of Living from the Truest and Most Pure Call of the Heart

For faeries, what the heart wants, in its purest form, is the right thing to desire.  But for humans, we have long practiced smothering the heart with the voice of reason, most often not our own voice, but the voices of others, of cultures and governments and of groups of people who fear nothing so much as hearing the heart’s deep call.  And so, with this gift of the faery comes the gift of hearing again the heart’s deep call and having the courage and commitment to follow it, no matter where it may take us.  The heart’s deep call will never drive us to a destructive relationship or a  hurtful scenario.  It is not going to sacrifice our spirit to the making of money or the stifling of creativity.  The heart’s deep call, the true call, is beyond this, and will only take us in the direction of the dreams we are meant to fulfil this lifetime.

The faeries can now, with this gift, slowly lift the mist that covers the shining heart within you and open you up to that deep listening to your own self, and help you to value the song of the heart that has been singing to you since before you were born.  For the faeries have heard the song of your heart, and have wondered at the difference between its call and the life you have lived thus far.  With this gift, your life will move more into accord with the heart, and you will begin to live from that deep, true place – with integrity, with fulfilment, without foolishness or following another, for your own heart will guide you and never ask you to sacrifice yourself to the creation of the dream of another.  The faery’s gift is of the heart’s deep call to you, friend.  May its song bring you every blessing.  

A BLESSING OF THE LIMINAL SPACE

The Faery gift of Gateways, Sacred Sites, Enchanted Times.

Dear Faery Friend, you have reached a great moment, the point where you can receive the blessing of the liminal space and time.  The gateway, the moment, the choice is her.  Let the liminal, the in-between, become more and more apparent to you.  May the blessings of the sunrises, with their dawn colours and sweet beginnings, be yours.  And may the sunsets, with their richness and splendour and their message of coming rest be yours, too.  May the in-between spaces, the places where the faeries can reach you so easily, and where you can discover your own inner magick be yours.

To be blessed with the liminal is to be blessed with the deeper magick of the natural world, to have the ability to step outside of human rush and stress and worry and deeply experience the quiet spaces within nature that are so often offered, yet o rarely accepted.

Find yourself within the sacred grove, with the old, wise trees; find the space between the worlds and walk a while with the guides and faery kin who love  you and wish to be of assistance to you.

Find your way into the magick of your own life and soul, and leave behind the push and stress that strips the world of its magick.  May your intuition flow easily and accurately, may there be a sense of deep peace and trust with the world, and may you know that there is an abundant well of magick and faery wisdom awaiting you, every day, every hour, within these sacred spaces and places.  

Find the space in between, find the magick that dwells within, find the faery circle in the field, and let yourself be blessed again and again with the blessings of the enchanted ones, the sacred spaces that lie all about us.  

THE BLESSING OF THE MOTHERS

The Faery Gift of a Time of Unexpected Gifts and Wonderful Synchronicities.

When this blessing comes to  you friend, you receive the blessing of the Mother, the ancient faery being of the land known today as Wales.  With this blessing comes recognition for your own kindness and generosity, and so now you will find yourself blessed with the unexpected gift.  The old tales tell us that the Mother will reward those who are kind and caring, especially those who care for the land and for the animals.  And so to you they are sending a boon – a gift of treasure found in a hidden place, a warm cloak on a ol day offered by a stranger, money readily oing to you in strange and lovely ways, and ease of suffering in an area you thought had no hope.

The blessings of the Mothers are unpredictable, as they will see your own life and what they will bring to you is what your soul most needs to feel solace and blessings.  If you have felt like thr has been a run of “bad luck”, this will now lift and transform into an effortless flow of all that is good.  Every small kindness you have offered others will now flow back to you.  And in mysterious ways, you will see how what was once done of simple goodness is now returning to you, threefold.

For the faeries see you, know you, and acknowledge your heart, and the Mothers are now with you, to bring you the bendith y mamau – the gifts of the Mothers – so when they appear, give thanks, and know that nothing goes forgotten and unseen in the realm of the enchanted ones.  

Blessings, and may the gifts of the Mother bring you comfort and goodness, friend.  

Oh how deliciously perfect for this moment in time!  So gorgeous bean, I wish for you a most glorious week. Use your voice, practice your boundaries and know that you are sooooo worth it. Happy Thanksgiving!  Sending you huge hugs and squeezes.  See you next week.